To experience the dark - is to know the dark - is to transform the dark...
If you are looking for the ever popular “safe container”, where all of your illusions are coddled and your madness is respected, go elsewhere.
There is no safe container here. I don’t even know what one looks like.
I wouldn’t dare disempower your sweet-self with such a disingenuous offer.
I offer you no safety, because to do so, would be to commit an unforgivable lie.
The illusion of safety is what has made us so naive to begin with.
You want to grow, mature, and develop immensely? - "Ok, here is a horrifically dark, challenging, unsafe and confrontational experience for you which utterly violates your being." - says life.
We are constantly being put through initiations, in order to up-level. You don’t get a choice in the matter. Some lives are a little lighter. Other lives are somewhat heavier, and non-stop.
One of the ways life gifts us initiation is via extreme violation of our being.
Violation forces us to recalibrate and reorganise our relationship with ourselves and life. It can be brutal in its approach, but it is an absolute gift in its aftermath, if we can process our way through it from a place of compassionate inclusivity. Inclusivity of the dark.
Be careful what you wish for in your requests for deeper consciousness, because the deeper you go, the darker is gets - the more confrontational your existence becomes, naturally. Also, the more beautiful and ecstatic your existence becomes.
THE IMPORTANCE OF DARKNESS
Why must we be accept the dark?
- Because we are of nature, and that bitch is as beautiful as she is deadly. She can lap-up against your toes on a warm summers day, or she can create a Tsunami that wipes out thousands of people.
We are all of her. But, we have become neutered and spayed, in order to be controlled. This has almost totally eradicated our ability to be in dalliance with the dark. It has separated and retarded us.
If you want to remain delusionally safe and comfy - stay sleepy. Don’t look for truth. Stay infront of your smartphone and keep being triggered by all the nastiness in this world. Keep wishing it was all different. Keep assuming safe-spaces and boundaries are going to make all that yuckyness go bye-bye…and then sit back and watch how life absolutely devours everything you attempted to pin-down in one fail swoop.
It is all exactly the way it is supposed to be. There is nothing you can do to change this on a collective level, as to do so, would be to break the law of the universe.
If you want the fluffy fantasy, keep avoiding the dark and continue to demand safe-spaces. And watch how you become more and more detached from truth in this life.
These new-age containers of safety that seem to be all the trend right now, offer very little in terms of growth and expansion, because they are not real. Sure, it may allow someone feel falsely secure enough to dive into the tip of the trauma momentarily, but it is not something which can be later applied practically outside of the room. It is a parameter of play, which becomes entirely limited in its healing capabilities.
The desire for a safe space is fabricated and built upon fear, unprocessed trauma, and fear of dissolution - because then what can you cling to?
(I want to clarify that creating a highly clarified, integral and transparent container of “safety” is initially a supportive approach at allowing those highly traumatized individuals begin to feel secure enough to drop down into their nervous system and begin unraveling themselves - meeting themselves. But...I say initially.
Because there is no real truth in the safety they assume is present.
It has been fabricated as a momentarily supportive space, to allow the person drop-in. After some time, this will no longer hold much weight for the person, and rather than support their process, it will begin to disempower them. Making them more and more unequipped to utilize the power present in the truth of their darkness.
The line, of course, is different based on each individual.)
An embodied man or woman has no desire for anything deemed as "safe", as they themselves have matured to be of a compassionate fierceness. A fierceness which was ignited by spending a whole lot of moments right down close to the dirt, being pelted by it.
Proclaimed “safe-containers” are of little value for one main reason; it offers little room for life to come in and take over. It is deemed “safe” based upon the prerequisite that you are in some sort of control, and if it all gets too uncomfortable for you, just say “pineapple pizza” and we stop. Good luck with that one…
Real growth happens outside of that container.
This trend has began to mould the “conscious community” into irresponsible dollops of humans, unequipped to move through life in a capable and personally responsible way, clutching to victim mentality as a desperate attempt for some comfort.
I know, most of us have been victimised in some form or another in this life. I have worked with many men and women who have had absolutely horrendous experiences in their lives, from unrelenting sexual abuse, to physical torture - Sure, I see the pain in their soul, which just needs some love, expression, support and time…because our transformative nature is magnificently powerful by nature. What I ALSO see in these individuals who have been through the worst, is a tremendous potency. A realness. A knowing of the dark. A maturity. An intelligence which seems unavailable to others. A person who has been pinned against their brokenness.
The darkness is efficient - It strips away our foolishness at a catastrophic rate. The pain we experience in the darkness is due to the rate at which it disassembles our current reality. It is, in a large sense, an experience of death.
Darkness is the truest detox. Green smoothies don’t even come close.
The essential key is in applying inclusivity to this darkness, and combining it with compassion and sensitivity - then full integration & transformation of our most traumatic life experiences can be achieved.
I have zero intention to ever be here in order to convince someone they are safe and protected. The only thing holding us is life itself. Everything else is up for grabs. We have a certain amount of will, but fundamentally she calls the shots.
Beautiful things happen in this life, and terrible things happen in this life. There is no difference between these experiences other than the meaning we choose to place upon it.
Regardless of how traumatic an experience is, if we give enough freedom to the body, in terms of our expression / feeling through the layers of bracing it created in us, we get to a point of no longer holding that experience in the body. It has become transformed.
Life is as beautiful as she is deadly. Until one accepts this, they stay stuck in a resentful childs-pose, wishing life to be different to what it is.
Safety doesn’t exist!
If you have made it all the way to the end, thank you for taking the time. I hope this post has assisted you in some clarification of how you may be functioning. My intention behind everything I do, is to restore intelligence, love, compassion and strength to humanity, through a wide range of transmissions.
We are so powerful, when we are truly informed. When we are connected. Learning to accept your traumatic experiences as "on-purpose" will allot you greater life-force and compassion, in order to really utilise and transform it. So you can then apply the darkness, to the light.
The brightest individuals are only the brightest because they have been able to dance with and transform the dark.
Bringing realness, clarity and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Here to assist you in a REAL way, without the fluff. Pointing you to your magnificence. Relentlessly committed to being here, embodied.