Beware of what you ask for...!
The allusive phrase “I want a conscious man” reverberates off the walls of the new-age goddess movement - while im left scratching my head attempting to figure out do these women even know what they are asking for?
Many women will ask for a conscious man - until they meet one. The “why” behind this, is the the point of todays sharing.
In my experience/opinion, most women are not yet in a place of their own heart-based development where they would even know how to be around a conscious man to begin with. It would simply be way too triggering & overwhelming to capacitate to. (And yes, I realize how loaded this statement is.)
Lets start by clarifying; Dear women, if the way a man witnesses you, holds you, be’s with you, penetrates you, doesn’t make you feel more beautiful, alive and “drunk in-love” with self than you felt prior to engaging with him - find a new man!
Life is too precious to spend yourself on anything that isn’t of total enhancement to your body, mind and s€x. To your spirit.
With all that being said, I assure you it is not all about butterflies and earth shattering orgasms. A conscious mans presence in your life is like a laser beam of clarification, which serves to illuminate and burn-up everything which is unlike love.
You will be seen, and not necessarily in the ways you would most like to be seen.
Bubbles will burst. Fantasies will drown. And only what is real will remain. (Which just so happens to be far more beautiful that anything else.)
A conscious man will simply see what is. The rest is irrelevant to him.
He only sees the truth of what’s right in front of him, and how it is showing up in relation to itself and the world. Whether it is a tree swaying underneath the winds kiss, or a woman projecting her past upon him, he simply sees what is.
Make no doubt about it, this seeing, this clarity - will rile up, expose, and have you come face to face with every last piece of yourself as a woman, and all the ways you have been programmed and conditioned.
A conscious man will lovingly and fiercely pin you right up against your own sludge, so you get to see the reality of that which you have been stooling in. He will not clean it up for you. He will not make it all better. But he will love and support you through your own reclamation process. He will be your #1 supporter, if you allow him to be.
How does a woman lose a conscious man? Easy, by refusing to take on full responsibility in her own maturation process, and assuming his patience and compassion for her unconsciously throwing-up all over him is never-ending. It isn’t.
A conscious man is clearly boundaried - as most of his energy is to be utilized in carrying out his mission. A womans presence is either supporting this in him, or being a hinderance towards it. (When I say “supporting this in him” I do not mean in 1950s housewife subservience. I mean that her powerful womanhood/juiciness is either nourishing and energizing him, or her unprocessed childishness is being a distracting drain on him.)
A conscious man cannot be controlled. He cannot be emotionally manipulated with tears or baited with sexual favor. He cannot be guilted, nor can he be shamed into disempowering himself. He sees manipulative performance, and is repulsed by the posture.
To be around a conscious man, a woman is required to be grown-as-hell, fast.
He is his own governing body, and has been self-clarified and validated long before you ever chose to enter his space. I feel this is very important information for a woman to have, so she can remove her energy from these more destructive and childish pulling-patterns that she is used to placing upon under-developed men - Her tricks and techniques will not achieve the same response from an embodied man, and they are very damaging to a conscious partnership.
(To clarify, a woman consciously going into these childish expressions and patterns as a method of healing, playing, or transmuting is beautiful and necessary, and something the man will commit to loving her through. But if it remains as her foundational way of engaging with life, now he is disrespecting himself by continuing to be there.)
Your heart, your love, your vulnerability, your transparency is the only thing he can trust in you. Its the North Star he is always attempting to land with you.
Why am I sharing everything I am sharing today?
1 - because many of the women I have worked with over the years have requested I write clearly and directly on this topic as its been of great support to their own relational process after sessions.
& 2 - because as soon as men start to witness the women only laying down with consciousness, he will have no choice but to do his work. To clear himself up. To put the toys down. To reclaim his own matured beautifulness. To see himself, first.
Women are desperately seeking men to do their work, wanting a king…yet there she is, repeatadly taking in a man-boy and allowing him inside of her body, her heart, her mind - Over, and over, and over again. Tolerating his immaturity & mothering him, hoping he will change(while his actions show no evidence of this), in the disguise of loving him - which ends up weakening him.
When a woman coddles the man-boy, the man-boy has no need to develop or wake up. He is already having his base needs met, so why the fuck would he bother?
Accountability goes both ways.
Women, you are either calling in a conscious man into your life and holding that standard, holding that space - or you are pretending you are - while continuing to make decisions which are totally out of alignment with your higher intention; subjecting yourself to under-cooked versions of love.
Once we can arrive to a place of being deeply honest with ourselves, we can finally begin to make true shifts in what we are calling into our lives as individuals.
Everything I share, is to intend and allow a wider avenue for unconditional love to flood through. True love is birthed fourth via truth with one another. We are all responsible. We are all immensely powerful once in contact with our natural frequency. This is the work - seeing how we say one thing, and then go and act out the total opposite!
Honoring self will take more commitment and accountability than anything you have ever stepped in to in your entire life. It will break you, and it will make you.
The deeper you go in, the more you may find yourself in vaster quantities of aloneness as you grow, but this is perfectly normal. For this allows space, for higher forms of creation, attraction, and love to enter your life.
You, us, we - deserve it all.
I invite you.
Bringing realness, clarity and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Here to assist you in a REAL way, without the fluff. Pointing you to your magnificence. Relentlessly committed to being here, embodied.