You can point a man to his polarity, but if you tell him exactly how to express it - you castrate him...
You can point a woman to her polarity, but if you teach her exactly how to express it - you create a manipulative “goddess”.
Ideally, in an energetically intelligent scenario, a person is educated about and pointed to their own natural polarity, and it is then up to them to start spending time with it - to know and understand it. To see all the places they have disallowed that aspect of themselves to be felt and expressed.
Most people who claim to be “teachers” of polarity, seemingly have absolutely no idea what polarity actually is - based on what they are “teaching” and how they are moving inside.
Polarity, just like truth, if left unconditioned, arises and expresses itself slightly or vastly differently in everyone.
Once a person has been pointed to their inner polarity, the work of allowing the energy to teach and initiate that individual into deeper understanding of how they function - begins.
The bodies system is naturally set up to be balanced in its poles, and requires no mind. Mind is usually why a persons polarity has become dysfunctional, mixed up & confused to begin with. It’s why the expression has become perverted.
The truest expression of an individuals polarity will flow naturally once they begin to heal and reconnect to their energetically positive(+) pole on the body: For men(biological) it is the genital/prostate area, and for women(biological) it is the breast, chest & heart area; regardless of how they choose to identify.
From here, energetic intelligence spreads and circulates, cleaning out the other centers and negative poles from the trauma & numbness it’s been swamped with.
It is important to understand that our energetic polar-system is biologically based. At least this has been my direct experience from working with thousands of peoples bodies over the last decade, in many different modalities, and seeing how poles are governed. Im totally open to it being any other way it decides to - but fortunately, we dont get to choose that.
From this place of contact with inner polarity, the continued work will be about learning to stay present in the bodies wisdom, when discomfort and trauma arises, so it can be fully discharged and expressed.
This is healthy polarity.
You see, when we approach polarity from a body-based health system, we get to make true contact with it. When we attempt to compartmentalize it for sexual relationship, we are actually pretending polarity.
If a man and a woman focus on healing their own poles, when they come together, polarity will naturally be established, even if the woman isn’t swept up in bashful surrender, and even if the man isn’t standing with a rigid overcompensating cocked-spine and forced slow deep breathing.
The sexual polarity camp is approaching it all backwards, and getting very limited results.
These days I find myself regularly spending entire sessions unraveling this over-learned junk from a persons system, so they can come back to truly connecting with themselves, life, and their partner in a more authentic way.
If a persons unique expression of their inner polar law(which takes time to unearth) is interfered with by a “teacher”, it no longer belongs to them, and now they are actually disconnecting from the transformative potency which it brings fourth; Performance behavior ensues.
Most of these new-wave polarity teachings are nothing more than standardized manipulation & performance pieces, with a “fake it till you make it” mentality - which has zero grounding in consciousness or embodiment.
The universal law of polarity is being sodomized right now by thirsty immaturity.
Its turning its practitioners into disingenuous bad actors, who move about actively disempowering themselves and disrespecting those who they seek to connect with.
I dont know about you, but for me, as a man - Its integrally repulsive to feel a woman try to click into the polarity technique she learned in her last “intensive”, and then watch her attempt to do it onto me. There is zero space for connection as she attempts to jump over reality - in order to be all up in her “goddess”.
These techniques are taught to connect us, but they do so in a pseudo way. It wraps us up in fantasy.
A man or woman being dysfunctional in relationship; killing attraction, passion & love - are core trauma patterns playing out. It’s the trauma which needs to be met, understood and moved through, for natural polarity to return.
Requesting the woman take on a disempowering behavior to appear more “feminine”, to attract a man - is NOT accessing polarity. It’s accessing manipulation; the same weapon she was previously playing with, just wearing a different coat. This damages her relationship with herself, and any future partner.
A person who is all about reality - is attracted to, drawn to, and inspired by that which is real within another.
Polarity begins and ends with the felt-sense acknowledgement of its existence within you. Followed by you sitting/dancing with it, feeling it, listening to it, and experimenting in how it desires to be expressed. This takes time, patience & possibly some confrontation. Many different versions and flavors of it will move through you during it’s clarification process.
There is no quick-fix, in any aspect of coming back to what is natural for you.
Polarity guidance in relationship can show you why you are receiving certain responses from your partner, which may not be desirable - it can also grant you little external corrections in communication, but it will not rebalance your energy. Verbal tips & tricks, without the true internal realigning, is similar to polishing a turd.
Most of what’s out there right now is a wet band-aid. All you have to do is meet some of these “teachers” to see what’s really up - Its insanity.
Everything we are seeing right now, has absolutely nothing to do with healthy polarity - its simply entertainment. It’s acting class.
Because of social media, everyone and their dog can “teach” - and it’s kind of terrifying.
Buyer beware…or don’t. Maybe you need to buy into the shit, in order to be directed to what is real.
As usual, feel free to leave your love/hate, agreement/disagreement, internet opinions, life-force leakage, & 7 page novels in the comment section below, as it’s great for my social media manager Jesper’s engagement plan. Especially when everyone starts arguing.
Personally, I won’t see any of it, as I’m not on social media. I’d rather lick poison ivy.
I invite you to treat yourself a whole lot kinder, in everything you do, and to maybe be on here way way less, for the sake of your energy, health & consciousness.
Be sure to check out Chris’s men’s and women’s groups who meet twice monthly.
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