“Hi Chris. Can I ask some advice around intimate connection with my man and nourishing what he needs? We always hear about what women need in intimacy. How can I show up as a woman to have my man feel more alive? (We are having issues in this area right now)...
Thank you for your beautifully vulnerable question. I will do my upmost to be as clear & concise as possible. Please note that the communication will be very matter of factly, in order to avoid fluffiness.
Basically speaking, woman nourishes him through her receptivity and trust in life & her man (if the way he shows up for her deems him worthy of her trust)
She nourishes him by receiving and responding to whatever his being is gifting to her, in that exact moment, in a totally authentic way.
For this to happen, she needs to be fully accountable for being in her body, rather than being locked in her head; gripping to stories and conditioned narratives.
Her reflection is food for his soul.
Your relaxation, ease, breath, letting go, laying back, and willingness to feel everything is key to him staying interested-in and moved by you.
A woman who forsakes any of the above in order to stay locked in her head, to skip embodiment, will repulse him more and more as time goes by. It may not sound fair, but it’s just the way nature works.
A woman who is functioning mostly from her controlling masculine energy will inspire the opposite of desire in her man.
As a woman, it is your responsibllity to take care of your womanhood. Just like it’s a mans responsibility to take care of his manhood.
From this place of self-service first, both partners can share and nourish each other from a place of mature sovereignty.
As I said, it is your responsibility to care for your feminine essence. Wether that involves daily embodiment/feminine practice, healing-work to unravel pent up trauma, or making lifestyle changes to further support your beautiful receptivity sitting at the forefront for your experience.
A woman who is unreceptive, unresponsive, and unwilling to accurately reflect his existence back to him through her body and energy, has very little to keep him engaged, nourished, and in his power.
Eventually, if it stays this way, he will feel more and more disempowered, until he ends up looking elsewhere for his reflection.
A man doesnt cheat for sex.
He cheats for his reflection.
Sure, in many instances a man may have deep self-worth issues, and could spend his entire life chasing his reflection in abusive ways. Being power hungry, domineering, controlling etc. there are healthy versions and unhealthy versions. But the foundational truth remains the same - he looks to you for his reflection.
My response today is intended to keep things clear & real, so you can easier examine your current situation, and what may be out of sync. Please try on what feels true, and disregard what does not.
Much love and thank you for your question,
Bringing realness, clarity and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Here to assist you in a REAL way, without the fluff. Pointing you to your magnificence. Relentlessly committed to being here, embodied.