Men, you do not need to be a neo "spiritual" or "tantra" man in order to regain your power. In many ways it is actually counter-intuitive...
I see you, I feel you...confused in which rope to grab.
You see an array of ungrounded, greased-up feminized dudes in Shiva pants, covered in beads, holding their hearts, talking from their head, telling you how to fuck your woman.
Many of these men, the so-called leaders, guides & coaches - are simply playing a deeply disingenuous role - even more lost and confused than you may be. More concerned with how many followers, likes, and dollars they have, then actually embodying & knowing what they are speaking about. Many men also take on a spiritual persona, as another attempt to get their sexual needs met, via women who are in states of traumatic vulnerability.
You need not be any of this.
*THE COACH TREND*
Unfortunately, In modern society, there is no regulating body for spiritual guidance. There is no initiatory process for teachers and guides.
Anyone with an Instagram account and an understanding of branding/marketing can quickly appear reputable, as a “Shiva-Shakti-embodiment-Goddess-Vegan-Self-Love Coach”, and be in the position of influencing others in very uninformed, detrimental, & irresponsible ways.
This has not always been the case, as in tribes and communities, the priest/priestess/shaman was officially appointed, for very specific reasons.
It was clear that this was their dharma in life. They were chosen for a specific purpose. Just like you and I have been chosen for a specific purpose. None better or worse. None more or less important.
In a time where everyone is afraid of being labelled as "judgmental", or anything less than "all-inclusive glitter balls" - we let absolute madness and unaccountability just glide-by, unchecked; fearful of questioning the core of any highly-charged narrative.
Its not ok.
Men, we are here to check the space - To keep it energetically pristine via our conscious alertness.
As men, we are here to function almost like the bouncer/security at the front door of a nightclub. Not from a desire to control, but from a responsibility to protect.
If someone out of their mind attempts to just moonwalk into our precious community spouting all sorts of nonsense and abuse - they are checked and clarified before being able to enter safely.
Men, we require a deeper honour than the one we have been slanging; A deeper code of brotherhood, which functions at specific standards. Standards imposed in order to TRULY protect the community - women & children. Their consciousness. Their sovereignty. Their health.
Modern man has become as spineless & watery as a melted fucking ice-cream cone; afraid to really speak-up in testing times, and the consequences for our communities have been dyer.
The reason I am sharing what I am sharing today, is because I see so many men wasting their time in the spiritual development arena, by playing with processes & practices that are not for him.
Processes which keep him soft and sleepy.
Practices which steal his time and energy away from simply standing up and getting his shit together in real-time - penetrating practically; re-organising his life, followed by bringing that deeper clarity back to the community.
Men have been confused in spiritual development, and have followed women into their corners of practice - which are beautifully supportive for her - but not for his electricity.
You don’t need that eye-gazing workshop right now. Let that be your desert!
I see a pattern of women wanting men to be more adept in his feminine energy, and this is important. It is necessary. He needs to be sensitively aware, as the underdevelopment of his(and her) feminine is one of the reasons the planet is being strangled. But it is NEVER to be at the expense of his thrust and vigilance.
I also see many women in spiritual spaces unconsciously taking on the posture of "insecure mother" - coddling him into disempowerment. And because she herself is possibly still holding traumatic patterns around the masculine, she begins to request flaccid qualities from him to feed her own insecurities. It can be very messy, and I see it playing out regularly amongst women who "coach" men, on being a man. He becomes further distorted…
Stop softening and feminizing yourself just because others are uncomfortable with your male thrust, and realise that your conscious thrust(connected to a sensitive awareness) is what is needed now more than ever to repair and rebuild our very sick society, in a time of chaotic emotionality and fear. You being swept up in the emotionality does NOTHING for the betterment. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
Spineless masculinity is the abusive bane of our society, and only by correcting this fearful purposelessness, can we begin to shift.
As men, we must be the ones to initiate the change first, through creating action which leads to an increased safety for women and children. For human consciousness.
Once we can manage to take this first step in unison, the women can finally fill the space & ground it in.
She will finally be able to unravel her nervous system & trust the masculine, to the point of feeling safe enough to transform this planet, with her depth of fierce compassion.
We get to learn deeper compassion from her, without having to sacrifice any part of our thrust and directness. We integrate it.
Men - be in your thrust…and begin to know it more and more. Begin to exercise it. Not to take or harm. But to protect, love and lead.
Notice how you shut your thrust down. How you actually fear it greatly.
Notice how dangerous it may feel to you - to be so certain and direct.
Now begin to support it in yourself.
Once you have established your "why”, you can make sure it is in alignment with service & compassion.
Your thrust, discipline, reverence, and calling, will naturally connect you to your heart and compassion. As your inner woman begins to swoon and melt open, to the newfound strength and accountability which has returned to your masculine.
You gotta do the work to choose yourself! Otherwise nothing else will.
Staying true to your thrust will allow you to rise in love with yourself once again, as you reclaim your purpose & calling as a man of integrity.
If you can do this with awareness and some level of sensitivity, both life and woman will sprawl herself open to receive your seeds of clear direction & protection.
The highly practical aspect of thrusting yourself consciously into life, re-organising what has been spoiled, & bringing order to that which has become chaotic in your kingdom - IS your spiritual work.
Recognize that an unconscious & under-developed thrust is the exact behaviours which have created so many of our problems today; An impatient agitated poking. Manipulative, abusive, immature.
The call is to bring compassion and consciousness back into alignment with thrust, so it can be integrated.
We have lost mans voice. His REAL voice. The one which penetrates life right to the core, and transforms with truth, strength, and intelligence. We have lost his practicality. He has become a slave to his feels and addictions. He has become dictated by the opinions of others, and fears taking up space.
What he needs first, is to start listening to and hearing himself viscerally, and how HE is supposed to move in his life, minus everyone else’s voice - Including mine.
This will be the foundational point of stillness and knowing which you can move outward from.
The inner surge of you, if you are willing to feel it, surging…will be all you need in your guidance process.
The rest, is simply courage.
Bringing realness, clarity and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Here to assist you in a REAL way, without the fluff. Pointing you to your magnificence. Relentlessly committed to being here, embodied.