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FOR HER SURRENDER - TRANSMISSION FOR MEN

4/21/2020

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I had a male client communicate to me today: “she’s so hard. I want her to be softer. It pisses me off when she is so hard. What do I do? I keep telling her to be softer and to surrender in her femininity, but it’s not working.”
“Well firstly, you being annoyed by her “hardness” as you put it, is only going to support more hardness.” I replied.

She is already “soft” by nature. If she is not willing to be in that energy with you, there are parts of your being which she does not fully trust at this point.

An emotionally reactive and unclear man, is felt as a weak untrustworthy man. You don’t have to like it. It simply is what it is.

Even if her mind wants to trust you, her body will never feel safe enough to open in your company. It will brace in your presence. There will be an energetic cocooning as a form of protection. Not because you are a bad man, but because there are too many parts of you which are unclear, uncertain, and dispersive. This is unsafe for her on every level of love & surrender.

Men, you must realize to some degree what it means for her to be in a place of deep softness and receptivity with you. For you, it turns you on. For her, it’s risking life.

It requires her to release all order and control, which she has been forced to barricade up around herself, based on her past experiences with males.

This is what you are asking when you request for her to “surrender” more. You are inviting her into absolute exposure.
On top of that, you are also wanting to literally insert a part of your body up inside of her, in a way which allows you to have full control over how you move it inside of her, in the most sensitive part of her entire physicality. DO YOU REALIZE HOW MUCH TRUST THIS REQUIRES?

As men, we cannot ever truly feel the reality of this situation in our body, and what it must actually feel like when it is presented in a disconnected and hungry way.

On the other end of the scale, having such intimacy presented in a connected, sensitive and conscious way must be like taking silky rockets of love-drops, made of dark chocolate, to the milky way. Excuse me, I’m veering...

Basically, you are requiring her to bathe in oceans of vulnerability. A vulnerability which has been many times before you; used against her - disrespected, judged & dropped.

Based on all of this...why on earth would she trust a man who she hasn’t vetted repeatedly?

Welcome her challenge.

Welcome her moment to moment tests.

Realize it’s because she actually gives a damn about you. If she didn’t, she would never feel the need to test anything about you.

If any of this sounds like something you simply don’t want to engage with, then leave her alone. She can probably find someone safer than you.

What men need to see is the beauty in the challenge - the beauty present in the opportunity to demonstrate your wisdom and strength. This, is the dance.

If you are wanting to show up for yourself, for community, for her - regardless of how terrified you may be, beautiful! Stay there, in your integrity, and allow her to continuously experience you.

Finally, the question answered:

How do we as men experience woman in her softness?

Through learning how to LOVE HER.

Especially in her hardness. Especially in her anger. Especially in her frustration. Especially in her tension. Especially in all the places she has been mishandled and traumatized.

Love her!

And then love her more...if you want to.

If you don’t want to, there’s nothing wrong with that - But leave her the fuck alone. She doesn’t need another half-assed version of undercooked love. None of us do. If you are going to be there, at least commit to it.

You want her to be soft? Learn how to love her.
Much love,
Chris
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6 Comments
Kimberley link
4/21/2020 03:21:51 pm

This is amazing and such a gift this morning. Thank you so much! I’ve shared this with so many today.

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Elizabeth link
5/19/2020 01:51:40 pm

From My Heart of Gratitude to your Heart. Thank you for writing this Chris Bale. It truly touches me deeply. It is so challenging to move through relationship-- when no one is truly showing up. The language you have used is very helpful for those of us that are moving through this and have no language to express what we are feeling.

Thank you.

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Neel
4/24/2020 09:24:04 am

Another gem from Chris. ABSOLUTELY loved it!

This resonated with me deeply. I

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Dominika link
4/25/2020 11:07:26 am

Thank You!!!
I have been trying to explain myself for years...to men...

But this is the best way
from man to another man.
My husband loved it!!!
Thank you so much

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Razz
7/5/2020 11:00:59 pm

I'm a virgin male, I'd just like to experience sex. Believe Chris you yourself once were a womanizer. Why cant I just love a woman for sex. Then if I find a woman which us amazing, commit more to love.

Also what does it mean "dripping her". What's wrong with casual consensual sex. Especially if you are a virgin and dont know what the experience will be like.

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Razz
7/5/2020 11:04:04 pm

Also how would commitment and multiple sex partners work, or am I missing something here?

Is it possible to "drop a woman" without hurting her? That is move on from the relationship if it is not nourishing you or are looking for something else?

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