Falling In Love - The Mental Illness

​​From the very beginning of your life you have been programmed by society, entertainment, media, education & religion, to “fall in love”.

If we grew up on the same planet, then I can only assume that like me, most of the versions of “love” you have beared witness to, has been the GMO version, which is inherently dangerous to our wellbeing, and limits the amount of love which can be present in an individuals life.

Ideally, given the conscious choice, no one should ever really fall anywhere.

My invitation in this sharing is a simple one:

To RISE in love rather than falling. Because in order to rise in anything, you must first locate the source of it within self, rather than looking for another to be the holder of it - who’s job it is to come and bring it to you.

Right now Im going to say some of those things I say, where one group of internet humans applaud me, and other group of internet humans attack me…

To FALL in love is to ACTIVELY choose disempowerment!

Ideally…one should never fall anywhere.

Falling madly in love, is exactly that - Mad.

It is one of the reason why a “passionate”(aka co-dependant) relating ends up being so volatile and explosive - Both people are falling fiercely and nobody has got a hold of rope. There is no root. Neither people are actually present in the relating anymore, with both functioning from a place of fantasy, feeding their foundational lacking, with the other.

BOOM! It explodes.

To fall in love is to out-source self by using another to feast upon as a distraction - So you don’t have to truly examine the core of why you are unhappy and unfulfilled in life to begin with!

If you are sick without them, you’ll never be healthy with them. Finding a partner is not the solution to your misery.

This is one of the most dysfunctional cruxes to why people search for a relationship - To continue avoiding the big sad elephant in the room, which is causing so much emotional destruction. The avoidance of their deep work.

I am not saying one cannot be in a beautiful relating until they become "perfect", because there is no such thing as anyone of us being "perfect", whatever that means.

As long as you have a functional awareness to your self-sacrificing behaviours & conditionings, love whoever you want to love. But continue to do YOUR work - Continue evolving.

The truth is, nobody else is ever going to be able to make you & keep you happy. It is nobodies role to grant you a happy life. That is ALL on you - But, A beautiful human who you share love with can make your time here a whole lot sweeter, if one can meet and receive that love from a place of centeredness & maturation. Otherwise, it will be missed. Spoiled.

The above statement is to EMPOWER you.

Your life, your love, is all yours. It is directly reliant on your relationship with yourself. That is the greatest gift of all. Dependance ceases to exist when true union-with-self has taken the wheel.

Ill be the first to say that coming to this place of existing is in no way easy. It will hold you up against every last ounce of your fearful & braced brainwashing. It will challenge all of you, in some of your deepest and darkest corners. Your ability to meet and see yourself in these places, is what once again restores the light.

If we stopped searching so frantically to find the person who triggers us to fall in love, and instead focused on learning how to feel & bring our own source of love forward first, within - Life & love would become endlessly available to everybody, every moment of the day. It would be grounded & rich, with a never-ending shelf-life. We would stop looking to fall, and begin learning what it takes to RISE.

True love wants to empower you, not sacrifice you.

Much love,
Chris