A Personality Is A Persona - It's Not You

Most people have a designed personality. This is not her. This is the performance of her. This is her self-fabricated “highlight-reel”.

A regular question I receive from the men I assist is “Chris how do I attract a woman?”
Easy.
Love her...but as a man does, not as a woman does.
Be a man, as a man does...Not as a woman does.
To truly love her, you must make sure that you are even meeting her. Most people have a designed personality. This is not her. This is the performance of her. This is her self-fabricated “highlight-reel”. This is the part of her which has her hating herself. Comparing herself. Fatiguing herself. This is the expectation which has been placed on her; Attempting to be a certain way, to be seen a certain way. The more you love her personality, the more you strangle her!

Actually, let’s talk about the whole personality thing. People love the personality, and miss the person. Everything here is about love. All of your deepest spiritual questions can usually be answered by loving more. How to love? Well that begins with meeting yourself. Because if you don’t know you, underneath the personality you have so desperately gripped to, then you cannot begin to love what is real.

I work with couples regularly, who have been together for years, and they don’t even know one another. They have never met one another...because as individuals they have never met themselves. It’s always been personality and games.

People are so about improving and strengthening the personality, to get further in life and to be what they THINK is more attractive. They read books on how to be more of a certain way; How to add an extra slab of bullshit to the already gigantic skyscraper of performance abilities, which is always ready to fall-apart at the slightest poke.

If you continue championing the personality, you will continue being seduced by what is fake. I would love if you spent less time on building your personality and persuasive techniques, and more time listening to what is really being spoken, underneath. 

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