Patience is a must...
As a man, once you figure out your role with woman, you will realise how so much of it is about utilising your presence in order to assist and support her in regurgitating and untangling from all of the mishandling and abuse that has been placed upon her, before you - Past experiences which have barb-wired her heart and expression. Experiences that have stolen her sovereignty and attacked her nervous system.
BEING there for her - is so much of how a man loves her; How he cares for her; How he waters the soil of her heart, so that new flowers can begin to bloom.
As a man, my highest role with woman is to patiently and consistently show-up, as the unraveling continues. Proving to her my depth of consistent integral reliance, via my actions, & not just expecting her to trust me because I request it.
She must test me, challenge me, poke me. Push up against me...in order to feel my strength, boundaries, and spine.
Men, you must arrive at a place of being ok with this, and understanding the necessity behind it. Also, if she is testing you, it means she actually gives a fuck.
If a woman is not putting up a challenge for you to demonstrate your male proficiency and trust-worthiness, it either means she is profoundly naive and would follow anybody anywhere...or, she doesnt care.
Many men become butt-hurt when a woman challenges him, or admits she does not feel trust towards him. As if she is supposed to just blindly follow.
She needs visceral evidence of your reliability, over a long-term period, and needs to observe how you handle a wide array of life situations. She needs to see your patterns.
Does this man say one thing and do another thing? Does he shy away when his penetration and directness is required? Does he avoid bringing correction and clarification to situations which require it? Does he have a protective awareness over my wellbeing? Is he present with me? How does he react when shit hits the fan?
She needs to witness all of this. Only then, over time, can she come to truly trust you with her body, her heart, and her life.
MAN IS BASICALLY A FARMER.
A very common question I hear from men is "Chris, you are always speaking about roles. What is your role as a man with a woman?"
Of course each man must clarify his own, as it may not look like mine. But allow me to share...
- My role, is to be there in a way which supports her life, body & heart returning to something a little bit more magical and beautiful than before. Like a farmer, tilling the soil, committing to be there as the weeds are pulled, together. Re-planting an oasis inside of her, with cosmic seeds of precise love.
Patience is one of the cornerstones of a great farmer. He need not rush the land. He simply needs to become more and more sensitive to her seasons, so that they can work alongside one another harmoniously, to bring about more beauty.
Men…patience is essential for her to be able to lean into deeply trusting your direction and what you stand for - In her being able to fully receive you, and what you have come here to bring.
Patience is essential in figuring out how to be there long enough, in order to actually receive the gifts which she has for you. The POWERFUL gifts, which can only flood through once you have proved your ability to hold her steadily enough in love, in challenge, in life - to fully open. Without dropping her.
She opens safely to conscious power.
Without patience…you will never receive. You will only toss yourself away and continue to consume, wondering why you never feel complete.
You are empty.
She is unmet.
There is something far more potent for you which exists on the other side of her heart. If you are committed to staying still with her long enough, in love, through her seasons, you will begin to feel sense of what her wine truly tastes like(as will she), and how it has the ability to nourish both of your lives, and your Union, undeniably.
There is a reason men these days are so disempowered and weak - He has become entirely uninterested in figuring out how to collect the crown she has for him, buried in her heart.
The lesson is love.
The result is abundance.
I invite you,
Bringing realness, clarity and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Here to assist you in a REAL way, without the fluff. Pointing you to your magnificence. Relentlessly committed to being here, embodied.